for the love of fun

there is nothing wrong with making fun your life goal.
pozele astea sint doar de simbata 17 pina duminica 25. proof ca orientarea mea e corecta:)))

my orientation towards fun gets me messages like the one i got last week:
Hi!!!
Just wanted u to know ca m-am mutat Ma rog, you probably know at this point si voiam sa va spun mai devreme numai ca am tot amanat asta But still, I feel like you’ve been one of the greatest teachers I’ve ever had and I feel really grateful for the fact that I had the opportunity to spend a year and a half with you!!

whenever in doubt about my fun-oriented orientation, i look at the diamond-milliondollar smile al acestui kitchen boy,si trec din nou prin poveste cu el. si la sfirsit rid si-l iubec, si mi-aduc aminte ca daca orientarea ta e sa faci chestii care sa le demostreze celor din jur ca esti om serios si in nici un caz penibil sau doamne fereste imatur, chances are that u will end up living a pretty miserable sorry life and that you will miss out on so much... fun:)
povestea din cantec e asa: baiatul asta e soup boy, adica munceste in bucataria unui restaurant., si intro zi vede in restaurantul unde munceste el o gagica (alba) cum se uita la el cu maxim dispret in timp ce soarbe plictisita (dar cu eleganta si distinctie etc) din paharul cu vin. si soup boy asta ii zice 'why this kolaveri di?'- adica de ce atita raceala si dispret, gorgeous? (multumiri lui ovidiu care, indragostindu-se de cantec si zimbet la fel de mult ca mine, a facut umpic de research si mi-a explicat care e povestea acum vreo doi (trei?!) ani.)

this  boy is  having a go, cand il decopera niste produceri. cintecul e trist de fapt,but he's having fun with it. la final nu-ti ramine nici un aftertaste de amaraciune, doamne-fereste hatereala. 
i bet you most days he finds something to have a go at, just. for. the. love. of. fun.

making fun your life goal nu inseamna sa te doara la basca, sa cauti 'distractii' in disperare, sa dai ochii peste cap cind apare o chestie importanta. 
in anii 90 foloseam 'sexy' pe post de 'misto'. toata lumea ridea umpic asa, cu un aer de 'vai roxana esti incorigibila' - dar eu ziceam sexy pur si simplu pe post de misto, si atit. nici macar nu cred ca-mi venise mie ideea, cred ca auzisem/vazusem asta intr-un film, and i totally got it. e sexy sa zici sexy when u mean misto. would be nice if more people tried it, i bet you we would have way less tabooization of sex if people could say sexy without the notion off fucking even remotely crossing their mind.
anyways, back to what fun is.
this soup boy who does kolaveri is fun.
the lgbt football championship.
all the social and political theatre shows i catch - love replika and macaz for eveeeeeeer!
married marian and gabriel are fun - a fucking riot, actually!
coaching ilici is fun.
talking to a lesbian high school student about her maybe doing  a gig with DoR is fun.
putting together a fundraiser with popeasca so he can piss off to denmark sooner - where he can present himself as himself without the risk of being attacked, judged, or taken by his mom to a shrink who is, ofc, un crestinopat.
this book about addiction is fun - anitza, it's actually GOOOOLD, u the beeeeeeeeeeeest <3
cant wait to do this passage at school with the kids next week:
I believe that the disease idea is wrong, and that its wrongness is compounded by a biased view of the neural data—and by doctors’ and scientists’ habit of ignoring the personal. It’s an idea that can be replaced, not by shunning the biology of addiction but by examining it more closely, and then connecting it back to lived experience. Medical researchers are correct that the brain changes with
addiction. But the way it changes has to do with learning and development— not disease. Addiction can therefore be seen as a developmental cascade, often foreshadowed by difficulties in childhood,
always boosted by the narrowing of perspective with recurrent cycles of acquisition and loss. Like other developmental outcomes, addiction isn’t easy to reverse, because it rides on the restructuring
of the brain. Like other developmental outcomes, it arises from neural plasticity, but its net effect is a reduction of further plasticity, at least for a while. Addiction is a habit, which, like many other habits,
gets entrenched through a decrease in self-control. Addiction is definitely bad news for the addict and all those within range. But the severe consequences of addiction don’t make it a disease, any more than the consequences of violence make violence a disease, or the consequences of racism make racism a disease, or the folly of loving thy neighbour’s wife makes infidelity a disease. What they make it is a very bad habit.

aici toata cartea:)

and all of these things have  a serious, sometimes painful or risky, understratum.
and you ask yourself 'okay so what do i do about this now?' 
and you answer yourself 'what the hell do i know? lets just have some fun'
so you do.