nu stiu cine m-a pus, m-am bagat sa prezint la o conferinta in noiembrie - un fel de draft al lucrarii de master. la master m-am bagat ca sa tin companie cuiva drag, si ca sa am cum sa fac dupa aia un doctorat, ca sa ajung/em in final la ce zic in abstractu' pe care l-am trimis la ramona (dima) si simona (ramonei), organizatoarele conferintei queerfemsee. 
de vreo 2 zile ma tot gindesc ca n-am mai prea facut mare lucru de cind am scris abstractu', acum doua luni. 
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[traducere; csf, ncsf]
enfin, abstractu':
As the international discussion on transgender rights seems to have gained considerable momentum, judging by the extensive media coverage and the wave of gender recognition laws and measures passed in the past few years, it seems fitting that Romanian transgender activists and allies should tap into this context in order to (re)open the discussion on transgender rights in Romania, especially concerning legal gender recognition.
First of all, is there such a movement? To what extent can we talk about orchestrated efforts aimed at winning rights and recognition for transgender persons in Romania? How well are we doing? Are we standing, walking, running? The first section of my paper reviews some of the landmarks of transgender activism so far, as well as the different directions of its efforts and potentiality nowadays.
Secondly, I will briefly review the existing laws and practices in Romanian society regarding legal gender recognition, as well as the set-in-place mechanisms and practices which can be resorted to.  Relevantly, we will present these facts comparatively, the backdrop being the legislations and mechanisms set in place in Argentina, Malta, or Norway. 
Finally, we shall look at some positions/inputs by transgender persons and allies, activists and non-activists, legal and other professionals, regarding the optimal ways of getting from point A (Romania) to point B (Argentina, Malta, Norway etc). What are some of the perceptions and outlooks on the future concerning legal gender recognition in Romania and generally being able to affirm one's gender identity and be safe, healthy and respected. These positions are still very much at the onset of being collected, this presentation being the first in a series of efforts to (re)open the public discussion on legal gender recognition in Romania. 
I sketched out this project in the summer of 2016, with transgender friends and allies by my side. My aim is to document the urgent need for adequate legislation and mechanisms for gender recognition in Romania, as well as put on the negotiation table a legal text draft that stakeholders can adopt, discuss and change as needed - or blow it up as indecent and come up with something adequate. Whatever the case may be, the essential thing is for the process to begin.
The interviews, data collection and events design are still in full swing, and will probably take a good couple of years. My final legal proposal will integrate transgender persons’ testimonials/input, as well as that of professionals and activists, based on their experience in assisting transgender persons’ efforts for a safe and healthy life, enjoying the protection and respect of society and its institutions. 

- sincer, nu stiu daca o sa zic mult mai mult decit atita in noiembrie, deci cititi colea si scutiti banii de bilet ratb si mai bine mai bagati niste ivo dimchev - cant get more queer than this, not much, i say.
love the fuckedupbitch, excuse my up.
[am invatat asta de la marian de curind, el zice scuzati mea cind ii mai scapa cite un plm]

in timp ce eu o sa zic despre astea - nu stiu ce anume, fuck, cine dracu m-o fi pus - kim davis va fi plecat de mult din rominia, iar ivo va continua sa aiba pe youtube o colectie de videouri din care cel mai mult imi place asta de l-am pus above. e incredibil de bun pentru a ilustra chestii precum:
- gen
- sex
- relatia cu corpul tau
- relatia cu kim davis
- obiectificare
- intoxicare
- norme de gen
- escapism versus balls
- gasiti inca una
- gasiti inca una
- gasiti inca una

in timp ce o sa zic despre astea, referendumul va fi fost anuntat, cred?
enfin, ceva se va fi intimplat in inevitabila directie a nazificarii rominiei.
in schimb, sanatatea mea cardiaca se va fi recuperat, caci martea si miercurea nu voi mai avea tahicardie bumtzi-bumtzi. imi voi incepe ziua cu r3 in loc de u3. that will rock.
o sa fie frumos. comunismul va fi fost invins, inca o data.
kim davis va zimbi.
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acum un an si vreo 3 luni, pe 9 iulie mai precis, trimiteam emailul de mai jos lui leslie, my old friend, prin ea reusisem cu putin timp in urma sa il conectez pe patrick cu andrew solomon, ea si andrew fiind preteni vechi. mi-aduc aminte si acum cat de out-of-his-mind de excited era patrick, cum au facut ei interviu pe scena salii de la unatf unde a tinut andrew o conferinta, cum s-au mobilizat patrick si sasha sa gaseasca an alternative venue pentru conferinta aia - la unatf - atunci cind bcu a zis ca oh pardon, noi nu putem gazdui de fapt asa ceva, in conditiile in care totul era stabilit cu ei de vreo luna. si cum dupa aia a aparut buhu/acceptul si a suflat transformului tot caimacul, adica cum a reiesit pentru toata lumea ca acceptul facuse toate cele, contactase-adusese-organizase-relocase si bang uite ce chestie extraordinara au reusit ei sa ofere comunitatii. a well, such is life. ce-i drept ca si lui andrew solomon, cind a aparut in schema acceptul, i-au licarit ochii a 'oh dear, what have we here, such a fine gent this buhu, yum' 
marturisesc ca in zilele alea l-am urmarit atenta pe marele autor al far from the tree, dorindu-mi sa simt acelasi elan adorator pe care-l vedeam la patrick si la alti cativa.
n-am reusit.
in ultima instanta, omul mi s-a parut ne-empatic, clasist, elitist, diva. okay, far from the tree e pretty impressive, dar ultimately omul e un upper middle class gent with first world issues and top-level resources to address his needs. a very different breed. great mind but not my kind of juju for sure. 
la scurta vreme dupa ce a plecat andrew mie mi-a inforit in cap o idee. i-am povestit-o lui leslie in emailul de mai jos, pe care i l-am trimis cu un titlusubject super-manipulator yes i know:)
a avut o reactie pozitiva gagica, dar dupa aia a uitat complet de toata treaba, evident.
intre timp eu m-am apucat de treaba, si mi-am dat seama ce si cum vreau si pot, de fapt.  
urmarea intr-un episod urmator:)
 

hey there flower:) hope you are well, where are you?
im doing alrightish, my mom is not though... she had a heart attack last week, on top of all her other things, like the breast cancer and diabetes and kidney disfunction... so that keeps me quite busy but i am not exhausted yet, mostly thanks to a small handful of people. 

in this rather trying past year i have received a lot of loving support from two of the most gorgeous human beings ive ever met, brothers in transition and now my family - sasha ichim and patrick braila. sasha founded transform association about 2 years ago. their mission is to provide support for transgender persons and advocate for legal and medical measures that assist transition with full respect to human rights. 

their mission is now part of my mission too. it fits in perfectly with what i have been up to in the past year. i have gathered a small group of lgbt high school students that i counsel and support as i can - their parents and sometimes teachers too. i have delivered workshops to over 50 high school teachers and 100 school counselors on gender and sexual identities, with a view to create a support network for lgbt kids in romanian highschools. i have built a small taskforce of some 10 committed high school teachers and a couple of school counselors with whom i keep in touch periodically and exchange support and educational resources with. in october i will train another 100+ counselors to it and will begin discussions with cjrae for a nation-wide project which will hopefully make it possible for me and sasha in 2017 to go train a small lgbt-aware group of teachers and school counselors in every county.
 
sasha and patrick breathe support for every trans person that gets in touch with them. some 150 trans persons from all over the country use transform as a platform for getting information about meds, doctors and legal procedures, as well as to help each other stay afloat during the storms and abysses of transition. their community organizing work is equipped more with love than actual skills. sasha is in the process of deciding whether he wants to go back to school to get a degree in social work, so there is a fair chance that transform's community work will soon be informed by a little technical knowledge as well. in the meantime, i chip in and help as i can. i am happy to connect them with people who can help, as was the case with cohn and jansen, an advertising agency who is doing a pro bono app for transform, to report aggressions and put them on a digital map that we can use in our advocacy campaigns.

the transform website is not up these days, but their fb page will give you a pretty clear idea about how great these guys are and how much heart and talent they put into their work. 
https://www.facebook.com/Asociatia.TRANSform/?fref=ts

i want you on board, will you play? we need advice from the sexy guru of ovidiu ro. can we haz dinner soon over how you would go about it if you had the patience to build another organization from scratch? transform is not at scratch level anymore, but sometimes it feels like thats where they should start from, afresh. im still in the process of learning how they do things, as im sort of mentoring sasha out of a blurry limbo, but structure is clearly needed there:)

i have been re-reading andrew's chapter on transgender in far from the tree, and have started to seriously consider starting a writing project that would document trans stories and provide whatever other info my field research could gather. this is in close tie with my wish to go for a doctorate soon. i have been playing at designing research instruments that ive been piloting with a bunch of trans persons randomly fished over the internet - it's fucking fascinating, i just cant believe the broadness of the range of responses to questions i never thought you could answer anything but yes or no to. 
as i am talking to all these people in different stages of their transition, it feels sometimes that i myself am transitioning - just like andrew did in his book, from son to father. my perspective on gender is miles from what it was before i joined patrick and sasha and so many other incredible people in their transition. i am as awed and cautious in turns as alice in wonderland.
perhaps you might care to forward this to andrew, if you think that would be appropriate to his interests. i would be very curious to know his opinion on a writing project that would document these transitions i am talking about, my friends' as well as mine....

one last thing: i have fallen in love with tony, from andrew's book! (he also looks a bit like joe, weird as fuck that!) anways, do you think andrew might help us get tony to bucharest, to spend a week with us, to connect and learn from each other and see what comes of it? pweaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaase? i HAVE to talk to that guy <3
uite aici site-ul lui:
http://jimcollinsfoundation.org/about-us/

tell me you dont think tony awesome <3 <3 <3

hey, this has turned into one looong email, oops.
it's actually my first morning in bed after a rather long stormy week, so i guess my mind decided as i began to type that this email will be my weekend treat to myself:)

love you miss you join me in transition <3

cum ziceam, la scurt timp dupa asta m-am si apucat de treaba. incet dar sigur, amatoriceste ca dracu' dar slava domnului insotita si indrumata de oameni destepti ca fifi si dana ududec si victor draghicescu si un pic si de costel cojocariu (care a impartasit cu mine un super ghid, cu cateva luni inainte de publicarea acestuia, care a fost like a christmas prezzie). mai presus de orice, ma inspira si ma motiveaza fiecare licean din grupul pe care mi l-a lasat mostenire sasha, cu care vorbesc pe facebook sau la telefon des, cu cei din bucuresti ma si vad, si bai ma jur ca omuletii astia sint niste superheroes. sa mergi la scoala in fiecare zi, sa traiesti in casa cu niste oameni care te ignora sau te abuzeaza, dupa cum le e cheful in ziua aia, sa faci hrt shooting in the dark, fara supraveghere medicala, sa mai rezisti inca o zi fara sa incepi hrt cind fiecare atom din fiinta ta urla dupa injectia aia, sa tragi de tine in fiecare zi si sa iesi din  casa, sa te lasi privit/a, dezbracat/a din priviri, sa ai 16 ani si sa te poti scoate din starea aia zilnica de franjuri si sa te recompui si sa mai ai si energie si chiar chef sa faci glume, si sa imi dai un sms ca ma iubesti, si sa ma rogi sa-ti caut nustiuce la dm in bucuresti, si sa imi scrii despre gagica-ta. nimeni. NIMENI nu are aceeasi forta si putere ca tine, my abel.
deci in ce directie am inceput eu sa ma misc?
hopefully in directia asta din factsheetul de mai jos.
am fost la o dezbatere cu puli-politicieni asta vara (aia unde a venit sa imi zica un usr-ist ca vrea sa m-ajute) unde adriana saftoiu a zis ca daca legea parteneriatului mai dureaza la minim 10 ani, atunci ce ziceam eu acolo si ce vedeti voi aici la recomandari in factsheetul de mai jos, dureaza he-HE. fa du-te-n pula mea. 
doamne ce-as vrea sa nu mai injur pe propriul meu site. 

azi am petrecut dupa amiaza cu matei si cu ginger si cu ee cummings, poetul meu cel mai iubit - mishu, promit sa pun si jon milos curand <3

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
                                                      i fear
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart

i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)